I’m sick of black women saying I have “good hair”. What technically qualifies as good hair? Is it that my hair looks moisturized and shiny? Secret: I deep condition weekly and you can too. Or is it that my hair curls up really well once I apply a curling custard or water? Another secret: I limit the amount of direct heat on my hair and use products to enhance my moisture…oh yeah and you can too. Despite Shea Moisture’s successful or failed efforts to tell us about the history of hair hate among women, you be the judge, hair hate is very much a real thing.
Since I’ve started blogging and sharing my natural hair journey and experiences with women I’ve heard the same thing countless times.
“My hair doesn’t do that.” “Oh you have that good hair though.” “I have straight up “ni**ga” hair…and yes those were words from black women.
The last time I heard this was even more troubling. Remy Ma was co-hosting on The Real and re-iterated to all of America that she too didn’t have that good hair Tamera and everyone else in the world seem to possess. And although she was joking, that was pretty much the last straw for me. ** Remy’s part starts at minute 3:30**
After that I decided I wanted to take a stand and make my mark on this battle of “good hair” vs. “bad hair.” For the longest I’ve wanted to create a tee that is reflective of my love for natural hair. I went back and forth with ideas for over a year, trying to find the perfect phrase, words, or things to say but the idea of “good” vs “bad” hair always stuck with me.
Are there certain textures that are less work than others, of course. But that does not make it better than the next hair texture. What defines good hair is how much work you are willing to put into your regimen to make sure your hair is always healthy. No matter if your hair is relaxed, natural or weaved (I have in Kinky Curly Yaki Clipins in these photos) healthy hair should be the goal. I hope you enjoy my little slice of t-shirt love and will celebrate HEALTHY hair with me.